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Monday, January 12, 2015

Farewell For Now

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     As 2015 gets into full swing I have new goals of my own. I have been so very fortunate to share Monday and now Sunday nights with so many nail superstars. I have been fortunate to share this adventure with the Nail Talk Radio team. Our boss lady Athena Elliott  as I like to call her, our wizard of links and now co-host Braden Jahr, our tweet street reporter Jenn Cherry, our Instagram and social media whiz kid Cait Widemeir and our guest coordinator Ellen Torches. We have had countless adventures together and it has been an incredible ride. I am thankful for each and every opportunity I have been able to squeeze in with the Nail Talk Radio crew. So with that said, it is time for my next adventure. I will be leaving my post as marketing segment producer but will be staying on as a consultant for the show. 
     My life has directed me to a new path that I have been pursuing for the past year and it is time to give that dream the focus it deserves. I have been studying with a spiritual director this past year in hopes of becoming one myself. The Ignatian spirituality institute is a program organized around three major areas of study. Theology and scripture, Spirituality and Psychology and communication skills.  The study involves the retreat which I have been working through and two years of study at the Ignatian spiritual institute at John Carrol University. The institute offers adult Christians of any denomination theological and spiritual tools for deepening Christian life and ministry, whether in the home, parish, congregation, or workplace. After many years of working and consulting I have come to realize a few things in the hearts of those I work with. IN some cases their business is not right because their head is not clear and their head is not clear because their heart is burdened. Being the A type personality I am, I have chosen this path to get to the heart of the challenges we all face and to provide tools and instruction for the deeper work of faith. As service providers we are called to serve, and I am compelled to this higher service. I will still be around, visiting nail world on occasion and posting informative and uplifting ideas and strategies. This shift has been in the works for a while but with the passing of our friend and mentor Vicki Peters I was reminded life is short. We don’t have the time we think we do and lifes work is calling. Thanks to all the listeners that have made my time with Nail Talk Radio so very rewarding. Those of you that would like to follow my journey are welcome. I will still be posting on my blog Adventures of a Pro Beauty girl although probably not as often. My wish for you all is to discover your true passion, nurture it and step out on faith even if you don’t have a clear structured path. In the words of Dr. Martin Luther King, Faith is taking the first step, even when you don’t see the whole staircase. So here’s to 2015 and stepping out.
 ... Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not

Monday, January 5, 2015

New Years Advice

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  Well... it’s that time of year, time for the New Year’s posts. You know the ones, top 10 things to do for the New Year, New Year new you blah, blah, blah.  New Year’s resolutions are blasted on TV, in social media and magazines. While I am usually on board with this thinking this year it has an even greater meaning for me. You see this year our dear friend and nail guru Vicki Peters will not be joining us in 2015. Our friend Vicki passed away on New Year’s Eve, an event I still cannot quite fully grasp. I spent some time with her last in Orlando, solving all the world’s problems, well at least the nail world. How can it be I will not have her advice, her humor and her guidance anymore? Well the truth is, I will. So much of who I am as a beauty professional came at this sage’s wisdom. So I am taking Vicki with me, in my heart for the rest of my journey. What would her advice be for this New Year? Well I can only speculate, but I’ll tell you mine.

   Quit dreaming and start doing. You want to open your own place, just do it. Not carelessly, do it thoughtfully. Chances are you have already thought about it in your head for years. Put that thought and research on paper and take the steps you need to take to make it happen. Whatever your project is, start small if you must but start. Don’t let fear hold you back. Fear has been given the acronym of False Evidence Appearing Real. Are there obstacles? I’m sure. How can you tackle these? One at a time, a small chunk at a time to make these obstacles manageable? Do your research, do your homework and get the knowledge you need to face that fear for good.
     Live your own dream, no one else’s.  Where your mind goes is usually where your heart is. Do you have a desire for something that’s your own and no one else’s? You will never work as long or hard on any one else’s dream more than your own. I remember my sister Connie asking me why I worked so many hours, ran in circles raising a family, building a business, surviving on minimum sleep. I told her because at the end of the day it’s for me and my family, no one else. The losses are mine but the victories are mine alone. I read a comment by a friend on Vicki’s wall who was no longer in the nail industry; she was now in the faux finishing business.  Vicki told her she was very good at it and she should pursue her passion.  What a gift that was to this young woman.
Learn to take constructive criticism for what it is, constructive. Don’t let your feelings or ego get in the way of wisdom. Vicki’s words to me were sometimes harsh, but she had my best interest in mind. She had a way of cutting through all the hype and bs. She called it like it was, and I am so grateful for her candor. She told me things I might not want to hear, but needed to hear.  She was clear in her observations that were usually spot on and she did it out of the genuine desire to make me grow, to push me to that next level I couldn’t quite figure out how to get to on my own. She had vision like that, I think that is what I will miss most. When I was down on myself or let insecurities creep into my head she would say I wish you could see yourself as others do, then you’d knock of all this crappy thinking.  


     Unfortunately we all learned this past week a lesson in our books we don’t reflect on very often. We all think we have all the time in the world. We don’t.  So in true Vicki fashion I encourage each one of you listening to quit your bitchin, and get on with it, whatever your it is. We owe it to ourselves; we owe it to Vicki to carry on brighter than ever.  Pursuing our true passion with an eye on others to help them along the way as she did for so many of us. So make this year, truly your best ever.

Friday, January 2, 2015

Goodnight My Friend

So todays writing assignment was to look at a work of art and immerse yourself in it and write your interactions. This led to a heartfelt reflection on the passing of a dear friend.

To say it has been a long day is a gross understatement. I could not have imagined what lay before me this day upon my arising. I guess I knew this day would come, but it is here, now, and I must confront the reality that my friend is no longer here. As I took a walk earlier this evening I could barely see the path between my tears. For me physically taking charge helps me breath, helps me cope. I didn’t even know where I was going, it didn’t matter. The earth crushing beneath my boots was enough. One foot in front of the other as a prayer, as repetition, as comfort. The solitude of my grief was raw, the void palpable. As I turned to return home the view was stunning. It had grown dark, the day rolling down its shades for the evening, preparing for rest. The sky was vibrant with stars dancing their nightly serenade. Swirling around themselves and the mother sky. Flickering like strobes on and off, off and on. The clouds wrapped themselves into the mix ducking in and out of sight. Slowly crawling across the horizon, churning, rolling to the next hemisphere. Are you up there my friend? Can you see me? Do you know I love you? Are you somewhere in this starry night reflecting back at me? Are you at peace amidst the dance of light? Are you sending peace to me? To all of us who love you? The town is silent, not a whisper of wind, not a sound to be heard. Just the deafening silence, your absence screaming in my head. Every house tucked in for the night, lights extinguished as I walk. I may be the only person on the planet to receive this gift, the amazing gift of this sky, this night. I see the steeple of my church in the distance. The beacon of hope where I receive my daily dose. Hope as great as the universe, as small as my single prayer this evening. My single hope I hold in my heart as it breaks for my friend. I wish I could share this one more starry night with you friend. To share the wonders this universe pours out to us, only to be an afterthought most days. This incredible light show happens every evening, but tonight is even more spectacular with you in the picture. Your beautiful light adding to this dance of stars shining so brightly tonight. Why am I the only one here? Why is everyone else ignoring your show? Don’t they realize this night will slip away, never this wondrous again? The calm, after your storm, the peace after your struggle. I see you, I feel you, and I hear you in my heart. You wrap around me like this starry night, all the memories dancing along singing to my soul. In this quiet I know you are still here as sure as this beautiful night is here. But it is changing in every passing moment. Growing colder now it is preparing for tomorrow and so must I. I want to drink in this moment and hold it forever, yet I can’t. Tomorrow will come, and the stars will give way to the dawn. I must leave this starry night, but I vow to never forget this moment. How you made me feel, how you enlightened the world with your spirit. It is up to each one of us now as you pass this torch. To be that light, to enrich this earth, to give back to the universe that you have now returned to. Thank you for the show this evening, thank you for reminding me we are all but a vapor in the wind. I will never forget you mattered, you made a difference and out of my love for you I will remember it is my responsibility to do the same. Sleep tight my friend, until we are united.


Sunday, December 21, 2014

New Year, New Facebook Changes

     There are some big changes coming to Facebook in 2015
Facebook has determined that a lot of content people see is too promotional so they are switching things up yet again.  The news feed has controls for ads people see and the quality of those ads but those same controls have not been as closely monitored for promotional pages. Until now. Facebook is bringing new content controls for promotional posts in the new year.
Posts considered too promotional have been categorized under these three guidelines
    Posts that solely push people to buy a product or install an app
    Posts that push people to enter promotions and sweepstakes with no real context
    Posts that reuse the exact same content from ads
It will once again be changing its algorithms most businesses rely on for driving traffic through these campaigns. So how can you still see success in your campaigns without Facebook? Socially stacked has these suggestions.
Use good old fashioned email marketing to promote your latest products and milestones. Email marketing is still the most successful form of organic marketing for business. 70 percent of people say they always open email from their favorite companies.

Host contests, promotions and other campaigns on your website instead of on Facebook. As I have mentioned before your website is under your control, no one else. You can’t say that about other social networks. A simple embed feature drives users to your site, where you want them anyway. Visitors usually stay longer on your website than they do on your Facebook page.
    Place ads on your website and blog for no additional cost.  You can run all sorts of free ads on your blog and website, things like hello bars, display ads, pop up notifications and so much more. None of these cost any additional advertising dollars to run. You may need a graphic designer and web help to upload them to your site, but you get all the benefits. Try Canva to create your own graphics.
     Use share features from your website or blog to share content instead of relying on Facebook. Share features give your visitors six different way they can share a campaign, Via Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest Google +, Linked In or manually.
    Explore other networks instead of relying too much on your Facebook page. There is a big wide social networking world to conquer. There is a good chance your clients are seeking out your services on other networks, so join the conversation.

     And last but not least don’t forget about traditional media to make promotional announcements. The press release is not dead.  Reach out to media connections you’ve built relationships with, or if you don’t have any, build some.  Don’t panic about these Facebook changes for 2015. Spread around the social media love, because that’s smart marketing.   Read the rest of the story here. 

Sunday, December 14, 2014

What's Your 20 Mile March?


     This past week I watched a DVD of a leadership summit with Jim Collins as a featured speaker. You know, the guy who wrote Good to Great and Great by choice. There were many parallels in his talk about why some people and companies are successful and others are not. It made me think of Ashley Craig, the $100,000.00 winner of Nail’d it.  She shared many of the disciplines Collins shares in his book.  What are they? 
     First off you must have what he calls level 5 leadership behaviors, whether you are leading yourself, or a team. The x factor of great leaders is humility combined with will. Given you already have great leadership qualities what are these other factors that separate the good from the great?

   Fanatic Discipline- Collins calls this the 20 mile march.  This 20 mile march came from a story he shared about two teams on an expedition to reach the South Pole.  One team was successful, the other, perished. Dutch explorer Amundsen successfully led his team 20 miles every day, day in and day out. Not 25 on a good day and 5 on a bad day. 20 miles, day in and day out. Consistent forward progress, every day. It’s also just as important to know to not overdo, and leave yourself vulnerable to unforeseen situations. Managing yourself and your team in good times so you’re strong for bad times. When Ashley spoke of creating a home for herself and her daughter she knew she would have to build a career so she enrolled in Nail school. From her interviews it’s clear she was persistent , attending day in and day out, inching toward her goal.  What is your 20 mile march? What do you need to do today to set the conditions to hit your mark, consistently, whatever that mark may be? 

    Empirical Creativity – Discipline is not enough, we must create new things, take risks on new creative ideas to improve our work. How are you innovating differently than those around you? The key to this is in empirical. Creativity must be based on testing and experience. Placing the big bets, the big risks better be based on something you know is going to work. Collins recommends the bullets to cannonball theory. Fire small bullets at the target until you have a line of site before you load the big cannon.  Have a direction, some success before you go all in. You must blend creativity and discipline, when we do this it amplifies our creativity rather than destroys it. Ashley already had a string of wins before she entered this competition, a line of site, a proven winning formula she amplified with discipline.

     Productive Paranoia The only mistakes you can learn from are the ones you survive. Yes you have to be optimistic, but also be aware things can get hairy. You may look at the glass as full but are keenly aware it may shatter at any moment. Successful people have reserves from the time they are small, it is not a luxury just for the bigger companies. Most success is due to this conservative start that they fiercely maintain as they grow. Take that paranoia and translate it into buffers, built in reserves in case disaster strikes. It is what you do before difficult times come, the discipline you have in good times that make the biggest difference in your success, so you can be strong when people need you.   Collins uses the analogy SMaC. Specific, Methodical and Consistent. The greatest danger is not failure; it is being successful without understanding why you are successful in the first place. Ashley was consistently aware that there were talented competitors on her tail. Yet she dug deep into her talent reserves and delivered great work. This is such a great big topic and there was so much more I could share, so I hope I have stirred your interest to learn more about it. Read more about Jim Collins research. Find your 20 mile march and follow it!